Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Known Love

I ran across this picture on Facebook today and it angered me.

I'm almost certain that whomever created this little image had nothing but good intentions, but it made me wanna puke and punch something. To imply that you don't know love because you haven't mothered a living child, well that's just plain rude and ignorant. 

I'll venture to say that until you've heard a doctor confirm your worst fears, dealt with the reality that your beautiful baby is not ever going to grow into the person you had so many dreams for, made funeral arrangements, kissed your baby (no matter the age) for the very last time and said goodbye, you've not known pain. Sure, life can throw terrible things in our paths. But I've heard so many people tell me that the pain of losing a child is some of the worst there is. 

So because I didn't get to read to her little ears, powder her little booty, and wipe away her little tears, I know a different, but fiercely deep love. The love of a brokenhearted mama; but definitely love. I knew it then. And I know it still when I care for her sisters here. 


  1. Yes, a fiercely deep and true love. xoxo

  2. It's amazing how those little things can irk us so much. Like you said they probably had no bad intentions when making it but it comes off as a slap in the face to those of us who can know love without getting to do those things.

  3. I used to get so mad when I saw variations of this posted on FB/Pinterest/etc.. It's smug, ya know?

    And yes, we absolutely love so much despite being denied the opportunity to do those things. So much

  4. Hi there, I know we don't know each other, but I ran across your blog after researching cord accidents. We lost our second daughter at the beginning of June. Just wanted to thank you for Caroline's story. It sounds all too familiar. I'm so happy and inspired to see you have two more beautiful girls! God bless your family!

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